Hope...

With all the shortcomings that one may have or their relationship might have undergone, the most important fact that remains is the never ending love, respect, care and trust for each other. The importance of the years spent together, the love that is shared and the pain that couples undergo together should be enough to understand the value and respect that they have for each other.

Problems, issues, fights, misunderstandings are part and parcel of every relationship...but on the other side happiness, sweet memories, love, care, respect and trust for each other is what overtakes all these petty issues. We make mistakes and we learn from them, so as to accommodate each other well in life. Relationships grow with time and so do people, and I guess people have grown together against a number of odds in life. They have supported each other during the difficult times and shown their attachment towards each other.

Communication plays a major role in developing each and every relation and keeping them intact. Failing to do so, leads to a number of problems. I have undergone similar situation and I regret making the sinful mistake of my life, but I have understood the importance of communicating to the one you are close to. Thus, I have made it a point to change the way I communicate and stop the dear one from forming negative perceptions. But, I sometimes wonder, why do we build perceptions about someone whom we call our dear ones? Would it not be a great idea to just walk down and discuss it right on the face of it and clear the air? What holds us back? And if something does hold us back, does it mean we are not close to each other or do we fear the other person feeling bad or taking it to the heart, or not perceiving the same in right manner? I guess all these can be possible effects, but at the end of it each one will be clear on their part and will stay with a lighter heart.

Not communicating leads to lot of potential results like fighting, getting frustrated, anger and goes on to the extent of being dishonest with the one you love. Does that really solve the problem? I guess it just ends up complicating a lot of other things. It may be a possibility that lieing to other person may be because of respect, fear of hurting them unintentionally or other possible reasons. However, it is devastating feeling for the other person who is at the receiving end of all these.

Any relationship becomes successful with a mixture of certain core ingredients like trust, hope, confidence and honesty. Of course, love plays a major role and that is how everything else comes into picture and is automatically taken care of. I am proud of the fact that in any relationship that I have been (friends/love) I have not been dishonest or lied to them for any reason, that might be hurtful. Of course I don't mean that I have never ever lied about anything, but it does mean that I have never lied to hurt the other, or benefit myself, or take a revenge (tit-for-tat attitude) or whatever.

People might think why do I have to write all this, but it is just that, at this stage I do not have anyone to share these feelings with and I hope it will make some dear ones understand that the attitude to betray or lie, or hurt or agonize or spoil or do any such thing never resided within me. I hope, wish, pray, and believe that things change, and for the better and to where and how it was during the happy times.